My 30th birthday is on Saturday, and a lot of people share 30 things they’ve learned at 30. But instead, I am celebrating my 30 years of life and all of the things I am proud of myself for.

  1. I was the first in my family to go to college.
  2. I earned 2 masters’ degrees.
  3. I have navigated myself out abusive situations.
  4. My husband and I have lived in 4 states, adjusting and thriving together.
  5. I wanted to publish at least one book by 30; I have published 2 books, 2 articles, and 7 poems.
  6. I have traveled out of the country. I am not as well-traveled as many of my other peers, but growing up I could not afford to travel. I am seeing the world based on my own ambition.
  7. I have learned how to say “no.” But I still need a reminder once in a while.
  8. I have developed healthy coping mechanisms for depression and anxiety. Sometimes I stumble and fall. Sometimes I don’t cope well and do unhealthy things when I am hurting. Healing and coping is an ongoing journey.
  9. I had a 6 year career in ministry, and then made a career change.
  10. I have survived what has felt like unsurvivable situations.
  11. I have lived through situations that changed me to the core, but I worked hard to rebuild and become a person that I like and am proud of.
  12. I have forgiven people who have hurt me. I still have others to forgive, and that might take some time.
  13. I am learning how to celebrate myself.
  14. I am learning how to advocate for myself.
  15. I have rediscovered important parts of who I am and reincorporated them into my adult life.
  16. I am intuitive and empathetic.
  17. I can change and grow. I am not stuck.
  18. I do the damn work.
  19. The friendships that I have maintained from past lifetimes are quality people.
  20. I still have some hope that the world can get better. Most days, at least.
  21. I am brave.
  22. I always want to learn.
  23. I always want to improve and be a better human to other humans.
  24. I fight to be here, because I know I deserve to be here.
  25. I know who I am. I have a strong sense of self.
  26. I am a problem solver.
  27. If I don’t know how to do something, then I learn how. I ask questions. I am open to being taught.
  28. I am more than happy to share whatever knowledge I have with others to make the journey easier for them as well.
  29. I believe our well-being is tied to each other. I want us all to succeed. I want us all to be equal. I want us all to be cared for.
  30. I am happy with how I am using my time on earth. I want to make the most out of whatever time I have here and have lots of stories to tell. I have not wasted my years. I have continually used them to grow and learn. I rest when I need to rest, I sprint when I need to sprint, and I stroll when I need to stroll.

What are you proud of? Even if you just make a list of 5 things, please affirm yourself today! Our lists don’t have to look the same. My list is messy and full of pain. But I also celebrate the journey. Be proud of yourself, where you have been, where you are, and where you’re going.

Here’s to a new decade of life!

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