No Resolutions for 2021

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Let’s not talk about last year.

We all know.

What can we do with the unknown of this year? Normally we’d be setting resolutions, making plans, starting new habits and routines. But we’ve all learned from the year past that our entire lives can be upended in a moment.

For me, personally, I am deciding to “build.” I had a massive amount of personal momentum last year, and I want to build on it. I want to keep looking for publishers for my work, I want to continue writing, I want to strengthen my career, I want to keep making connections with people to grow my community and friendships.

If I focus on building from the foundation I have set instead of setting big goals or resolutions, it gives me the flexibility to move forward at various paces, despite whatever challenges come.

Meaning and purpose are what we make of it! I hope we can build together. Happy New Year!

12-25-20, a poem

On this eve when we’re looking up

to the sky

for stars to guide us,

or angels to sing to us,

or bells in church towers

to ring clear,


Take a moment to look down

at the soil beneath you,

stand still

feeling the earth turning.

Keep your head in the clouds

where your holiday wishes reside,

and your feet planted

here in the world where

we all live together.


Yes, even after the tragedy

of a year

wasted on that which is ill,

those who still live

are all here together,

our next breath

the most precious gift of the season.

Follow my poetry Tiktok!

Thanks to everyone who has been reading and liking my poems! I consider poetry my art, and to have people who are willing to read it and let me know they enjoyed it is incredibly meaningful to me. If you’re on tiktok and want to see/hear more poetry (and some of my attempts at being funny) you can find me @glory_thepoet. My tiktok is body-positive, LGBTQ+ friendly (I recently came out as bi, so no longer disguising myself as an ally, I’m out!), anti-racism, and pro-mental health. I will have a Christmas poem ready soon to post here and on tiktok. Happy Holidays to everyone, whoever you are and however you celebrate!

The Middle Place (a poem)

The middle place is

where the old self has died

and lies cold

staring up at you with empty eyes.

The middle place is

where the new self has not yet

been birthed

ready to roam the earth.

The middle place is

where the ghost of you

floats unseen with nowhere to go.

The middle place is

where transformation can

only happen in solitude

because the isolation of death

propels you forward,

deparate to pursue new life.

Better (a poem)

Something agitated has quieted within me.

Life can rip you up

and leave you with ribbons that don’t 

weave

or tie?

back together

the right way.

But there is no right,

I don’t think.

They just ache to be together.

So I let the ribbons fall down

wherever they wanted to.

Then the churning turmoil

soothed and cooled.

Post-Election Poem

Being good and being nice are not the same.

One enacts and pursues, the other performs.

Being a peacemaker and being a peacekeeper are not the same.

One stirs up and creates, the other lies still.

Who is it that you think you are?

Publication Updates

It’s an exciting time when all this quiet, lonely writing finally gets some traction and sees the light of day! On November 30 I will have 4 poems appearing on the “Academy of the Heart and Mind.” I will post a link when it goes live!

Also, my book is here! Breath for the Breathless has finally been published after I wrote it 2 years ago. Here’s what I posted about it on Facebook:

Clergy friends, I wrote this for you. I wrote this book of liturgy 2 years ago when my life was beginning to unravel. Writing this book was a lifeline for me. I hope it is a lifeline for you too! “Breath for the Breathless: Liturgy for Life’s Difficult Seasons” is the book you want on your shelf when a natural disaster happens, when violence strikes, when you need a prayer regarding mental health struggles or child loss. There are prayers and entire worship services written in here (with hymn suggestions) so that when disaster strikes, you can focus more on pastoral care and less on worship planning. If you’re struggling to find the words to say, my hope is that this book helps.

I am so excited to have gotten several publishing opportunities over the past couple years! Here’s to many more.

Wins and Losses

I have had a few publishing wins this year with my writing. But I don’t often post about my rejections. I knew going into writing that I would get way more rejections than acceptances. Just this month I have received 8 rejections, and we’re not even to the halfway point of the month! I spent over a calendar year trying to get my upcoming book published. I thought it wasn’t going to happen!

Writing, like any of the arts, is subjective of course. And we’ve all been told that just because you get rejected doesn’t mean you’re a bad writer. It can get discouraging, especially when you get so many rejections back to back. You might start to think your wins were just flukes and your success might be short-lived. But we don’t advertise this on social media! We don’t want others to see our more vulnerable moments.

I am sharing this because it’s important for people to know that rejection and discouragement are part of any process, especially when you are pursuing the arts. That is reality, and we aren’t entitled to anything more than that.

We believe in ourselves and our craft. We keep working and persevere. We learn and improve.

Celebrate every win, no matter how small, especially when your losses have been getting you down.

What I am Doing with My Year

I know people go back and forth with resolutions for the new year. Some years I do, some I don’t. This year I am really focusing on the person I want to be after a year of deconstruction. In many ways, this is very exciting. I can really shape who I am, and that will tell me more about where I am going. At first, I was bitter about feeling like I had to start over with so much of my life after working so hard, but I have accepted that this is where I am in my life. I am excited to rediscover parts of myself and reinvent who I am. So here are my goals and resolutions for 2020.

  1. Read more fiction and poetry: Most of my reading for the past… 6? 7? 8? years has been theology and Christian nonfiction. From academic reading to more mainstream authors like Nadia Bolz-Weber and Anne Lamott, I have imbibed literature that centers on my faith and ministry career. I am very tired of the jargon, buzzwords, and church-talk. Eventually, it gets stale and repetitive even with the “new” and “progressive” ideas. So I am going back to fiction and poetry, my first loves, to stimulate my imagination and reframe my view of the world. Speaking of poetry…
  2. 2020 is the year of poetry: I have been writing poetry since I was a child, and now I am going to get serious about it. I am writing poetry and submitting it to literary magazines. I am also collecting some for a book to publish (maybe before the end of the year? Before I turn 30?) I am proud of publishing a book of sermons and 2 articles in 2019, but creative, poetic writing is my heart. I am returning to my heart.
  3. A new career direction: I don’t know where I am headed in ministry. I am not going to try to force anything to happen. I am going to let things unfold the way they need to. I felt pushed and pulled throughout my entire ministry career. I have never had time to just think, heal, discern, and just be. I want my faith to have space to breathe for a minute. This means I cannot wait around for ministry to be my full-time income. I have loans to pay. I want to travel. Ministry may be on hold, or floating, or slowly unfolding, or whatever, but my life must keep moving forward. So I am going to be getting a certification from the University of South Carolina in grant writing. I want to use my research and writing skills with my experience in nonprofit work to take my career in a new direction. This is worthy work and something I will be thrilled to spend my days doing, proposing grants for nonprofits and other organizations that need funding to help others.

So much can change in a year. I am a completely different person now than I was in January 2019. I can’t wait to see who I become at the end of the year as we enter a new decade (and I will be entering a new decade in November!) I wish you well as you embark on a new year full of changes.